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Post by greysrus on Nov 11, 2015 7:25:26 GMT -5
Adopted a grey a few months ago, she is timid with some people. My partner has returned from working away and my grey is very wary of him, won't go in the room with him, barks at him. I've advised he ignores her and lets her come to him when she's ready. She seemed to be better yestrday, taking treats from him, but she's back to barking and backing away again today. I'm not there with them today. Will it get better with time? This has been over the last week. advice appreciated  |
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Post by kamkay on Nov 11, 2015 7:33:44 GMT -5
No advice to offer except the ignoring and letting her take her time. I'm sure with time and patience she will come round. If he's been away it may have upset her routine. She is still very new to your home environment and some greys take longer than others to fully settle. Sorry I can't be more helpful - but good luck !
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Post by Ted on Nov 11, 2015 12:36:55 GMT -5
Tell your partner to ignore her. I found with one Lurcher a friend had that it would hide behind the settee when I visited him to help him with his computer. I used one hand on the computer and dangled my other hand down the side of the settee, after a couple of occasions she accepted me. But she was still very wary of other men and use to come up to me and my two Hounds Jagger Greyhound and Mimi GSD such that other woman were puzzled about this activity.
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Post by allthehounds on Nov 12, 2015 8:18:17 GMT -5
It will get better but it will take lots of time and patience. Our girl Lily is very frightened of people after being badly abused and still won't really accept people she doesn't know but with us and in her own home she's full of confidence. Ignoring is a good thing and my parents who have known Lily for three years now still get barked at by her but if they sit down and don't look at her she will she come up to them and lick their hands. The minute they look her in the eye or speak to her she's off to the furthest corner of the room and starts barking again! I think it all depends on the individual dog and how badly treated they've been in the past. Stick with it but I know it's not easy and especially for your partner who probably feels rejected and just wants to be friends. My dad seems to take it personally that Lily won't cuddle up to him and doesn't want to be with him but you can't rush it and after three years we're finally seeing an improvement! Good luck.
Sian xx
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Post by sassbu on Nov 13, 2015 5:54:12 GMT -5
I have experienced very similar and come through the other end! When I have some time in the next couple days I will write more with some handy tips for you X
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Post by ritab on Nov 13, 2015 12:57:27 GMT -5
Like someone else said - it takes time and patience. It seemed to take forever for both of mine to settle - a year to 18 months - but one day you just notice things are on an even keel, and then you can't even remember what it was like in the early days!
Get your partner to give a nice treat now and then - mine absolutely love Natures Menu Chicken treats or sausage or liver, even Gizzi who will refuse biscuits.
Then she should associate your partner with something really lovely!
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Post by sassbu on Nov 15, 2015 16:07:17 GMT -5
Adopted a grey a few months ago, she is timid with some people. My partner has returned from working away and my grey is very wary of him, won't go in the room with him, barks at him. I've advised he ignores her and lets her come to him when she's ready. She seemed to be better yestrday, taking treats from him, but she's back to barking and backing away again today. I'm not there with them today. Will it get better with time? This has been over the last week. advice appreciated We have just come through the other side of a really severe case of this. Not a greyhound but a former Romanian street dog, who was one of Gap's 'ooops, short-legged sight hound' moments  She constantly jumped to her feet, hackles up, barking at my husband if he went upstairs when she was there, if he came downstairs when she was there, if he got up off a seat too quickly or sharply, if he walked towards her too assertively. She even started to do it thinking she was a protection to our other dog, a greyhound (even though he has no issues with my husband and used to sit there looking surprised lol) - I could go on for hours and hours about it but I'm going to skip straight to the pointers I think might be helpful which we learnt along the way and which worked. 1. Agree with the ignoring in the main and specifically not to make direct eye contact with her, especially no staring at her which she will read as threatening behaviour. 2. Get your partner to be the one who prepares her food in front of her and puts her food bowl down for her and then gives her intermittent treats, either whilst sat down or by standing side on to her - for as many meals as you can practically manage with your routines. 3. If your partner can go for walks with you and her as much as possible too, until she's comfortable to have him being on the end of her lead! 4. Make as much space in your main sitting room as you can and put her bed at the furthest distance from where your partner sits as physically possible, avoiding where you can, not putting her in the path of routes to other rooms. This I feel was our greatest downfall of all and hence why it has taken us a long time to get to this point. We have a very, very tiny sitting room, the minute one of us stands up then we are literally looming over anyone else, we are in very close proximity. Our tiny sitting room is also the only internal route to our kitchen, dining room and stairs to the bedrooms, so we had no way to avoid this. If I could have moved house to give her the room, I literally would have!! 5. You could also try getting her a 'thunder shirt' or making your own t-touch wrap with a bandage that goes round her body, both act as a 'swaddling' tool to make her feel more safe/protected. Hopefully you will find within a few days/weeks of him being around, that she gets much better. See how you get on, if you have more questions, feel free to ask x P.S. I meant to say that if your grey doesn't want to be in the same room at all yet, that's fine too in the early days. Do the other food and walking exercises and she should start to show some curiosity about coming in the same room with you both, once she feels safer in his presence. |
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Post by greysrus on Nov 19, 2015 14:38:28 GMT -5
Thanks Sassbu for your comments. We have seen some good progress over the last few days. She has started sniffing him and stopped barking, she has even let him stroke her, although she does still run from the room if he gets up quickly. A week ago I thought she would never take to him, but I do feel we will get there in time. Unfortunately he is working away again now so I'm expecting there will be quite a few steps backward when he returns. However, I'm feeling quite positive though that we will get there.
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Post by sassbu on Nov 20, 2015 2:19:19 GMT -5
That's fantastic, it certainly sounds positive for everyone with time and patience  |
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Post by gramps on Dec 31, 2015 7:32:16 GMT -5
Thanks Sassbu for your comments. We have seen some good progress over the last few days. She has started sniffing him and stopped barking, she has even let him stroke her, although she does still run from the room if he gets up quickly. A week ago I thought she would never take to him, but I do feel we will get there in time. Unfortunately he is working away again now so I'm expecting there will be quite a few steps backward when he returns. However, I'm feeling quite positive though that we will get there. You might find that now she has started to except him she will miss him and greet him on his return, it has been known.  |
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Post by greysrus on Jan 6, 2016 6:37:02 GMT -5
So I'm ramping up for the return of my partner and the timidness to return.
Just one question, occasionally she sleeps in my room, do you think this will improve or hinder the situation - thats if she even goes in the room if my partner is there :/
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Post by sassbu on Jan 8, 2016 16:00:54 GMT -5
So I'm ramping up for the return of my partner and the timidness to return. Just one question, occasionally she sleeps in my room, do you think this will improve or hinder the situation - thats if she even goes in the room if my partner is there :/ I honestly think it will depend upon the layout of the room and whether she has a space out of the way of him if he gets up in the night! If she only occasionally sleeps in your room then i doubt it will have much impact if she is not in the room with you both. If actually its more than occasionally in reality lol then she may see being shut out the room as a negative towards him coming between you and her normal routine. I think if it was me i would shove him in the bedroom first oo-la-la lol - and then see if she wants to come in or deliberately chooses not to... Not sure what anyone else thinks?? |
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