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Post by anneli on Sept 27, 2012 1:57:55 GMT -5
Can anyone help? I'm looking for somewhere - a home - for my greyhound at weekends, Friday night to Sunday afternoon. I need to spend more time with my partner at the weekends and Bob can't come with me. Some of you may say get a new partner - but that's not an option. I have seriously thought about looking for a new home for him, but I really don't want to have to do this and am hoping for advice on a solution. He has stayed with my brother and family, but they can't always have him and there is no one else I can ask. I don't want to put him in kennels each weekend, he loves human company and I don't think it would be fair. He has been home boarded several times - but the couple who do it are giving it up and are nearly always booked up anyway. I've tried searching the internet and rung a few home boarders with no luck. I live near Glossop, but anywhere in the greater Manchester area would be great. He's 8, food obsessed and not cat friendly.
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Post by Magpie on Sept 27, 2012 3:46:09 GMT -5
can i ask what will happen with Bob if you move in with your partne,r would nt it be better for Bob in the long run to try and rehome him now rather than shifting him around at weekends which personally i dont think is good for him, will your parner not accept you come with a dog
judy x
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Post by traceywacey on Sept 27, 2012 4:00:20 GMT -5
Must admit I was thinking the same as Judy. The whole situation does not sound like it is going to resolve it self. It sounds like you are very serious about your partner and that Bob cannot be part of that life. It is two different situations that cannot fit in to one without some compromise. It might be better for Bob if he is rehomed so that he can be with his mum/dad for most of the time without having to be sent to different places at weekends. Please do not take offence by this. I am just being honest. Hope you find a resolution. You could use GG to help with the rehoming process if you did decide to rehome Bob.
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Post by emmajane on Sept 27, 2012 6:57:40 GMT -5
What exactly is your situation? Is your partner in hospital etc, or is it simply a case of he lives elsewhere and you go to visit him? If it is the former then there are organisations that may be able to help depending on your circumstances.
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Post by manddy on Sept 29, 2012 14:21:11 GMT -5
I speak from experience....my ex-fiance was scared of dogs.
I agreed not to get any more dogs and my teenage son looked after dogs for me every other weekend, as exes whole family were scared of dogs.
I hope you notice the word "ex"....there is a decision to be made...I know that I made the right one for me.
As a passionate dog lover, it was something I tried to get past...but couldn't.
Time to prioritise I think......
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Post by fatpidge on Sept 30, 2012 11:32:22 GMT -5
Hi my friend does home boarding and she lives in Denton. Not far from you so if you would like her number please let me know. X
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Post by anneli on Oct 4, 2012 10:08:44 GMT -5
Thanks for all the advice. My partner doesn't like dogs at all ( although I had Bob when we first met). He thinks the dog gets in the way of what we can do - which is true to an extent. I know in the long run I've got to make a decision about whether this is good for Bob, but at the moment I'd just like some more options for where he can go some weekends. Could you please let me have your friend's number in Denton? Thanks.
If I did decide to re home Bob through GG, could he stay here with me until a new family was found as I really don't want him to go back to a kennel. I don't mind bringing him to meet a new family wherever they might be or however that works. I just want him to be happy as he's such a lovely dog who loves being with people.
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Post by Nettie on Oct 4, 2012 10:19:14 GMT -5
Of course, if it was agreed that we would help rehome Bob you would be able to keep him at home, in fact that would be preferable, far less unsettling for him than moving him to kennels and then to a new home.
If you do decide you would like Gap to help your rehome Bob then in the first instance please could you contact lurcherlot (Liz) for an initial discussion.
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Post by traceywacey on Oct 4, 2012 11:15:01 GMT -5
It must be difficult for you to decide what to do. I hope it works out what ever you decide.
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Post by Lisa on Oct 4, 2012 13:48:13 GMT -5
Where was Bob originally from? It may be in your adoption agreement to return him to rescue if a rescue dog. I am afraid I am going to be brutally honest and it may not make me popular. Please rehome Bob and do it now. He is already 8 years of age and people dont want old greyhounds due to insurance and cost of up keep. What happens if you move in with your partner in the next 12 months or so? Bob is going to be older and end up being placed up for rehoming.
I have to say this though... I came out of a relationship at Christmas and met a new partner... He has had very little contact with dogs. The first thing I told him is I have 8 and that if he didnt like it he would have to lump it. My dogs have been with me through thick and thin and were with me when I was on my own and no one else was around. I made a commitment to my dogs and there is no way now knowing that the world goes round and round that I would chose to engage in a relationship where my dog was not wanted/accepted because we are not compatatble. If you had children and he didnt like children you wouldnt be considering giving them up. If he loved and truly loved you and wanted to make you happy he would learn to adapt to Bob over time, give Bob the chance to prove he is a greyhound, laid back and not a hardship and come round to it in time. I will also say be aware.... a man that feels a lone dog is a tie probably has very serious commitment issues. He is already causing you to completely change your life to be with him.
Im sorry to be bluntly honest but a decission has to be made. Take a chance on this man and give Bob a normal loving home life with a complete family who want him or sit him on the outskirts in case the relationship fails to fall back on whilst waiting for him to get older and possible not find a home whilst either languishing in kennels or being passed from pillar to post each weekend.
I say that with VERY best intentions and the one thing that is always at the very forefront of my mind and the crux of the matter the dogs well being.
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Post by kizzeysmum on Oct 4, 2012 14:49:14 GMT -5
Bob deserves to be in a home that wants him and not pushed from pillar to post each weekend.
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Post by Anthea on Oct 4, 2012 15:36:09 GMT -5
Think about what Lisa has posted Anneli, she really does have Bob's life and best interests at heart.
wishing you all the best x
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Post by julies on Oct 4, 2012 16:26:06 GMT -5
Only agreeing with Lisa ...... but think about the relationship very seriously ... if he can't cope with a dog you love what else will he not cope with  Julie |
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Post by greybeard on Oct 4, 2012 18:25:43 GMT -5
Agree with Lisa totally.Fortunatley Chris and I both loved dogs and came from backgrounds that had had dogs.We were agreed that when the time was right we would have our own.As far as I'm concerned you commit to the dog totally.And all our dogs have been a lot easier than the boys!Like Lisa says insurance can be problem for older dogs - Perry is costing a fortune so there is no way we could afford another so called oldie.Love me, love my dog - and honestly dogs give far more than a lot of people do - they accept you unconditionally.Please make a decision soon - it's not fair on Bob,he'll only get confused being somewhere different every weekend.
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Post by Melanie on Oct 5, 2012 6:25:14 GMT -5
Hope you're ok and just wodnering if you've made any decisions regarding him?
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